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Youngji "My parents divorced when I was 8, it's my fault"
Singer Young-ji and mother and daughter Yoo Soo-hyun appeared as clients on Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which aired on the 13th.
Youngji, a 21-year-old singer who debuted as a professor in the Department of Applied Music at Hanyang University, is a veteran singer known as Lim Young-woong's teacher. He revealed that his mother, Yoo Soo-hyun, often experiences conflicts because of their different communication styles. Even when the two are at home together, they often talk through messages or phone calls.
Youngji said, “I have to charge it when I get home. “I don’t have the strength to speak,” he said, adding that he was often hurt by his mother’s tone. Yoo Soo-hyun also said that there are times when Young-ji's calm way of speaking sounds sarcastic. Recently, a fight broke out and even though we lived together, we didn't see each other for a month.
Oh Eun-young noted that the temperaments of Yoo Soo-hyun, an extrovert, and Young-ji, an introvert, were very different in temperament, and analyzed that Young-ji had an avoidant, insecure attachment. Youngji revealed that her parents divorced when she was 8 years old, and after the divorce, she lived with her father, older brother, grandmother, and uncles. Youngji, who lived separately from her mother until she was 14, said, "My grandmother gave 99.9% of her love only to my older brother," and revealed that she felt pressured to be a useful person in order to be liked and was favored by her grandmother.
Youngji said, “I went to my grandmother’s house and her friends said something to me. “He said, ‘You have to stop your mom from going,’” he said, adding that Youngji even said that he was the cause of his parents’ divorce.
Yoo Soo-hyun denied this, saying, "I'm crazy. That's ridiculous. If I were to take only one, wouldn't I take my daughter?" But Young-ji recalled, "My mom said I'd only take my brother, so when I lived with my mom, I did the dishes and laundry." Dr. Oh Eun-young pointed out, "It doesn't matter whether this is true or not. Young Young-ji kept it in his mind without even being able to ask whether it was true or not."
At the same time, Youngji said, “I don’t express my emotions. “I hate feeling negative emotions,” he said. While Youngji repressed and suppressed her emotions, Yoo Soo-hyun dealt with them in a way that pretended not to be a big deal and did not think deeply about them. In response, Oh Eun-young advised them to acknowledge each other's differences and fully accept each other.
Yoo Soo-hyun said, “I had a guess. I thought that the memories of being apart when I was young might still remain as a scar even if I didn't express them. “But I have never openly told my children that I love them,” he said apologetically.
Youngji said, “I was in love with my mom and dad, but we broke up, and I felt like I had lost my love. I really hate the idea of leaving because I love you. That's why I don't believe in love. Love cannot be given or received. “Still, I hope you give me love.”
Taeyuna, Ten Asia Reporter youyou@tenasia.co.kr
