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Oh Eun-young eventually stopped the video.
On this day, Sejin Park shocked everyone by revealing that although she is an English teacher, she suffers from severe ADHD. He then confessed his situation, saying, “Daily life is difficult due to ADHD, so much so that I take more than 10 medications a day.” In response, mother Lee Hyang-nam expressed her difficulties as a parent raising a child with ADHD, saying, “It was harder to raise Sejin than five boys, and the atmosphere at home was dark because the child was having a hard time at school.”
Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young said that there seems to be a lot of disappointment and disappointment between the two people due to frequent conflicts, and she would like to look into the usual conversations between the mother and daughter. In the video that was released, Park Se-jin said, “I paid a fine of about 1.5 million won for violating traffic laws when I first drove,” to which mother Lee Hyang-nam replied, “You’re not thinking,” and added, “Mom, you have too many unnecessary worries.” A rather violent conversation ensues, with mother Lee Hyang-nam responding to Park Se-jin, “When I talk to you, I get a headache and a fever.”
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was watching the conversation between the two people closely, finally stopped the video by shouting, “Wait a minute!” Pointing out that there are problems other than ADHD between mother and daughter, she says, “They talk constantly, but they can’t communicate.” He then explains that when having a conversation, the content and method of the conversation must be taken into consideration, and analyzes that “the mother and daughter are having a ‘thorny conversation’ in which the more they talk, the more uncomfortable it feels as if there is a thorn stuck in their throat.”
In the following video, the mother and daughter are still seen bickering. Her mother, Lee Hyang-nam, worries about her daughter, saying, “Even if you work hard with the thought of succeeding, you have to take care of your body,” but Park Se-jin fights back, saying, “Your mother told you to do that when you were young!” In response, his mother, Lee Hyang-nam, confronts him tightly, saying, “I didn’t tell you to succeed without taking care of your body.” Park Se-jin responded, “When I was young, you told me to succeed, but now, if you say something different, I’m confused and have nothing to say. “Mom is very controlling,” he snaps.
Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young points out, “The way the two people communicate is a direct conversation, and the content of the mother Lee Hyang-nam’s conversation is a double message.” He goes on to explain, “A double message is when the speaker sends two contradictory messages to the listener at the same time.” He also cautions, “People who receive double messages say that if they react to one message, they have no choice but to violate the other message, and ultimately feel a sense of failure, which can have a negative influence on their children.”
Park Se-jin recalls the time when he succeeded in getting a job at a large company despite suffering from ADHD. Park Se-jin then confesses that he was semi-forced to resign after 7 months due to frequent tardiness and maladjustment at work due to ADHD. Park Se-jin reveals that instead of comforting her, her mother lay down at the time, saying, “You should have held on for me.” “After that, I started to close my mouth to my mother,” he confesses.
MC Jeong Hyeong-don, who was listening to Park Se-jin's story, recalled his days working at a large S company and sympathized with the feelings of the two mother and daughter, confessing a similar experience, saying, "I left the large company I had worked for for over 6 years to become a comedian, and my mother cried loudly." do. Accordingly, Dr. Eun-young Oh explains, “Hyeong-don Jeong and Se-jin Park have similar experiences, but their reasons for leaving the company are different.” “Park Se-jin must have been very frustrated because he had to quit because he had no choice but to pursue his dream like Jung Hyung-don,” he said, adding that he would like to hear in more detail about Park Se-jin’s feelings at the time. Accordingly, Park Se-jin cried every day while drinking and confessed, “I also had a strong desire to die.” However, he confessed that he had endured it with the thought, ‘I still have to live,’ which shocked his mother Lee Hyang-nam. Meanwhile, it is said that mother Lee Hyang-nam confessed her inner feelings to her daughter, which she had not been able to convey until now, and brought everyone to tears.
‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center’ airs every Thursday at 8:10 p.m.
Taeyuna, Ten Asia Reporter youyou@tenasia.co.kr
