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Seungjin Kim, 56 years old, “Solo for 35 years, living only as my father tells me”
Kim Seung-jin, who took the music industry by storm with his debut album 'Suzanne', sung passionately with a sweet voice, is knocking on the door of a counseling center. Kim Seung-jin's mother expresses her worries about her son not being able to get married even though he is 56 years old. Kim Seung-jin responds, “I married music, don’t talk about it anymore,” revealing the conflicting thoughts of mother and son in marriage.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who confirmed the concerns, explains that the age of unmarried people is gradually increasing recently. Kim Seung-jin, now 56 years old, begins full-scale counseling by pointing out that he is a 'twilight solo', but Kim Seung-jin adds that "meeting with the opposite sex is frustrating" and "I feel anxious when I think of marriage," highlighting the seriousness of his concerns. Raise it.
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Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was listening closely to the story, asks a question about what relationships were like in the past. Accordingly, Kim Seung-jin is said to have surprised his family at the counseling center by mentioning that he met his first girlfriend in his early 20s and dated her for two years, and confessed that he was single for 35 years, which was his first and last relationship at the time.
Next, Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was listening attentively, asks about her parents' reaction when she was dating, and Kim Seung-jin specifically tells the story of how her father was vehemently opposed to her dating. Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young gives the core advice that, based on trust with parents, it is a sign of independence that is becoming distant, and that 'feelings of love arise through psychological independence.' After hearing this, Kim Seung-jin looks back on his childhood in his father’s shadow, saying, “I don’t think I ever became (psychologically) independent.”
Kim Seung-jin confesses that the only time he remembers from his childhood was working as an advertising model and living only as his father, who was a manager and producer, told him until he became a singer. His father monitored Kim Seung-jin's entire life and reprimanded him if he did not follow his wishes. It is said that his mother even fainted while trying to stop his father from beating him as a discipline.
Therefore, it is sad to say that when I listen to the song I was promoting at the time again, the difficult moments come to mind and tears come to my eyes. After listening to this carefully, Dr. Oh Eun-young points out that Seung-jin Kim's father is a 'dictator' who forced him to follow only the way of life he established.
In addition, a cool-headed analysis of the difference between 'advice' and 'gaslighting', saying that the actions that the father did to Kim Seung-jin along with the words 'I want you to do well' were not actually advice but close to 'gaslighting' that gradually dominated Kim Seung-jin's psychology. continues.
Dr. Eun-young Oh then speculates that his father's psychological control will remain throughout Seung-jin Kim's life. Accordingly, Kim Seung-jin confesses that he still lives according to the routine he had when he was young, and that he feels anxious, as if he is a 'sinner' if he does not do so. Dr. Oh Eun-young intensively digs into Kim Seung-jin, bombarding him with facts, saying that the routine that Kim Seung-jin obsessively follows is not his own, but 'a standard created by his father.'
Kim Seung-jin says that he lived a difficult life after leaving his father's arms, and that he only belatedly realized his love after his father passed away recently. However, Dr. Oh Eun-young advises that the father's way of loving is not desirable and that there is no need to glorify the parents' mistakes.
Lastly, Dr. Oh Eun-young is said to have moistened Kim Seung-jin's eyes by revealing 'this' that his father left behind a year before he passed away. It raises questions about what Dr. Oh Eun-young's solution will be for Kim Seung-jin, a 'twilight solo' who has been solo for 35 years.
‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center – Singer Kim Seung-jin’ will be broadcast at 9:40 pm on this day.
Taeyuna, Ten Asia Reporter youyou@tenasia.co.kr
