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Park Sun-joo made a shocking confession, saying, "I can’t listen to my own songs."
In Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which is scheduled to air at 8:10 pm on the 12th, the concerns of singer-songwriter Park Seon-ju and her daughter Kang Sol-Amy will be revealed.
Park Seon-joo, also known as the 'tiger judge', confesses that contrary to her image, she is a 'tiger' mother who 100% accepts her daughter's opinions. She confesses that since she grew up doing just what her parents told her, she tried not to raise her daughter that way and ended up raising her with acceptance.
Park Seon-joo reveals that, contrary to her strong and independent image, her mother took care of everything from start to finish during her childhood, and as a result, she grew up relying heavily on her parents. Also, since his father is a police officer, he was raised in a military style. There was a curfew of 6pm and people were banned from staying out, so he shocked everyone by confessing that he had never gone on a field trip during his school days. Park Seon-joo then reveals that she felt like she had no choice when she was young, and that because of that, she sometimes blamed her parents when she got results she didn't want.
Park Seon-ju confesses that she had no choice not only as a child but also as an adult. Even after his debut, he had to be accompanied by his mother on all schedules, and he recalled that he was not able to participate in any overseas schedules or even local events if they were located in a remote area where he had to stay out. Even makeup was banned, so she went up on stage wearing lipstick, and her father even told her to stop being a singer. She talks about her past, where she couldn't escape her parents' shadow even as an adult.
As it became more difficult to defy her oppressive father's choices as the days passed, Park Seon-joo made an extreme choice. He explains that he lost contact with his father and went abroad to study, and since he did not know how to do anything with his own hands, it was from that time that a new self was born. As a result, he surprised the families at the counseling center by saying, “I think it was only when I turned 40 that I was able to become emotionally independent from my parents.”
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who heard this, analyzes that the father did not give his daughter autonomy and choice in order to keep her safe. However, it is explained that if a child grows up without being given autonomy and choice, there is a possibility that he or she will grow up to be an anxious person. Park Seon-joo, who sympathized with this, confessed, “I used to feel anxious without my parents,” and confessed that she still does not make her own choices when deciding on something, but first thinks about ‘what would my father decide?’, arousing the sadness of the families at the counseling center.
Dr. Eunyoung Oh advises that as anxiety increases, a person can become overly obsessive. Park Seon-ju then sympathizes strongly and confesses a shocking confession that she cannot even listen to her own songs due to her obsessive personality. Sometimes people around me say, “Park Sun-joo is a genius,” but I explain that she is not a genius, she just doesn’t sleep until she finishes her work. It is shocking to hear that there was a time when I worked for about 4 days without sleeping, and that I also suffered from panic attacks.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who heard Park Seon-ju's story, analyzes that she seems to be looking for visible results because she has little experience in acting autonomously and has a low sense of self-confidence. Park Seon-ju then confesses that when she went to study abroad, she could not contact her father for six years because the results were not available. He said that he was able to contact his father only after becoming a professor, and drew attention with his sincere confession, “I hope Amy doesn’t grow up like me.” The reason is that we tend to be overly harsh on ourselves in order to get the results we want. Even when he was having a hard time due to ignorant malicious comments, he could only move on by saying that he understood the feelings of the person posting the malicious comments, and had no choice but to suppress his feelings because he did not know how to express them. As a result, he expressed regret by saying that he felt skeptical about his efforts to understand and ignore malicious comments directed at his family and even unfounded articles.
It is said that Dr. Oh Eun-young gave heartfelt advice to the wounded Park Seon-ju and comforted her heart.
Dr. Eunyoung Oh's solution can be found on Channel A's 'Eunyoung Oh's Golden Counseling Center' at 8:10 pm on the 12th.
Kim Ji-won, Ten Asia reporter bella@tenasia.co.kr
