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Monk Seongjin and Father Seongyong Ha receiving counseling from Dr. Eunyoung Oh at the 100th ‘Golden Insect Counseling Center’
Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Gold Side Counseling Center', scheduled to air at 8:10 pm on the 3rd, opens even more specially as it celebrates its 100th episode.
On this day, at the counseling center, past counseling clients Seo Jeong-hee, Honey J, Song Jae-hee, and Ji So-yeon, along with their congratulatory messages, reveal their changed current situation. In particular, Song Jae-hee and Ji So-yeon, a couple who visited the counseling center due to concerns about infertility, shared their current status with their new family member, Hael, who they welcomed after five years of marriage. Park Na-rae said happily, "After going to the counseling center, I feel like Dr. Oh Eun-young gave me fortune like a Samsin grandmother." It is said that it caused a sea of laughter.
Next, special customers for the 100th anniversary, close friends from the religious community, Monk Seongjin and Father Ha Seongyong, knock on the door of the counseling center. The two 'nim', who revealed that they became best friends due to 'similarity in appearance' and 'common sense of being single', demonstrate a strange chemistry that has never been seen anywhere else, from the benefits of priestly uniforms and monk's uniforms to skill battles.
As we begin the full-scale consultation, Monk Seongjin first reveals his concerns about the unexpected, saying, “I feel uncomfortable with emotional changes.” I always try to control my emotions according to the teachings of Buddha, but since I am a monk, I am a human being, from the emotions I feel when told to sew my flesh without anesthesia to the emotions I feel every time I have to point out my duties to the 'head of affairs' in charge of temple administration. Bonnie De surprises everyone by confessing that it is sometimes difficult to accept emotional changes. Father Ha Seong-yong sympathizes with this as a religious person and says, “I, too, have made it a habit to bite my molars to avoid showing my emotions.”
After hearing this, Dr. Oh Eun-young says that he seems to be experiencing a conflict between his role as a performer and a person in charge, and asks what he is avoiding the most to avoid feeling emotionally disturbed. To this, Monk Seongjin replies, “My parents,” and confesses that his phone calls with his mother rarely last longer than five minutes. He then confesses that, as a monk, he treated his mother coldly or spoke strongly to her in order to keep an emotional distance from her, which sometimes made her mother cry, and revealed that his relationship with his mother was his lifelong homework. What is the special advice and solution that Dr. Oh Eun-young gave to Monk Seongjin, who feels uncomfortable with emotional changes?
Next, Father Ha Seong-yong confesses his concerns about whether his straightforward advice style is helpful to believers. For example, it is said that a believer who is worried about work life is advised to “get over it” and a student who does not want to go to school is advised to “don’t go” and that this has led to complaints from parents.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who confirmed the concerns, analyzes that Father Ha Seong-yong's 'direct speaking style' is being used to understand the other person's intentions. In addition, he points out that there is an aspect of convincing the other person rather than convincing them so that they can make their own decision. Next, Dr. Oh Eun-young notices that Father Ha Seong-yong has an ‘impatient personality’ and begins to analyze his background. Accordingly, Father Ha Seong-yong confesses that since he was young, his father gave him a sense of responsibility as if giving him a mission, and if he failed to accomplish it, the price was always high, which is why he became impatient.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who heard this, digs deeper into her relationship with her father, saying that the anxiety built up due to that aspect of her father may have manifested itself in her quickly processing anything. Accordingly, Father Ha Seong-yong cannot even imagine asking his father everyday questions such as 'Have you eaten' or 'Who are you meeting?' I reminisce about the past when I didn't smile much before. In addition, he confesses that he has always lived to show that he is a better person than his father, and that even after becoming a priest, it was difficult to call God the Father because the name 'Father' was difficult.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who heard this, analyzes that Father Ha Seong-yong has been looking for a way to reduce his father's influence and is using 'sublimation', a defense mechanism that relieves his pain in a way that is helpful to society. Accordingly, Father Ha Seong-yong reveals that he does not spare deep advice to students around him who are struggling with their relationship with their fathers.
Additionally, Father Ha Seong-yong, who continued to talk about his father, confesses that he is deeply concerned about whether he should have a conversation with his father before he passes away. In fact, he gave up talking to his father and confessed that he had prepared in advance what he wanted to say to his father to say at the funeral mass, arousing the sadness of his disciples. In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young advises that the father's actions are not sincere, but are just methods that have hardened over a long life, and advises him to remember that there is no way to solve the problem once the object is gone.
Choi Ji-ye, Ten Asia Reporter wisdomart@tenasia.co.kr
