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Baekga, a victim of school violence, said, “I’m scared of retaliation.”
In Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which aired on the 7th, the concerns of singer Baek-ga and her mother Cha Hee-jeong were revealed.
Baekga revealed that his parents got married early. He said, “Ever since I was young, I was curious about why my dad married my mom,” and added, “My dad was like an older brother and my mom was like my mom.” He continued, "Ever since I was young, I have consistently received early education from my father, saying, 'Don't get married early.'" He added, "When I told him about going to kindergarten, my dad always said, 'Have a good time and never get married early.'" He raised the MC's suspicions. bought. Cha Hee-jung laughed heartily and said, “It’s true.”
Baeok-ga revealed the true nature of his mother, Cha Hee-jung, saying, “Mom swears too much. She swears at least 10 times an hour.” In addition, Cha Hee-jung's gradient swear series, which is divided into three stages, was revealed, making the counseling center burst into laughter. Cha Hee-jung refuted, "Appropriate swearing is not swearing, it's just everyday conversation."
After confirming her concerns, Oh Eun-young asked Cha Hee-jung if she ever cursed unexpectedly. Cha Hee-jung honestly confessed her feelings, saying, “When I get angry without realizing it, I curse,” and “Every time that happens, I feel like, ‘Acha.’” Oh Eun-young pointed out that Cha Hee-jung's swearing seemed to be mixed with sincerity, and analyzed that it was Cha Hee-jung's unique way of expressing her feelings by using swear words instead of showing a straight face when expressing dissatisfaction, trying to convey her sincerity in a humorous way.
Baekga revealed that her mother has no hesitation in her actions. He surprised everyone by saying, “When I was in middle school, my mom set the house on fire.” Cha Hee-jung explained, "It was just to scare my disobedient son," and explained that Baeok-ga was a particularly disobedient child during his childhood. There was an incident where Baekga climbed the flagpole and fell, an incident where a local dog was taken to school, and even an anecdote where a police light baton was stolen. The conflicting claims of his mother, Cha Hee-jung, who said that even Tyler was of no use, and his son, Baek-ga, who said that he was always subject to corporal punishment without any kind words of encouragement, were once again in a tense confrontation.
MC Park Na-rae was asked if she had any good memories of her mother. Baekga recalled memories of her school days, when instead of her mother Cha Hee-jeong packing a lunch box for her, she would bring home-cooked chicken stew and pork belly to school every lunchtime and eat them together. At the time, he was embarrassed to eat with his mother, but looking back, he said he was grateful and expressed his gratitude to his 'big hand' mother who took care of not only his friends but also his teachers.
Oh Eun-young analyzed everything from packing food to Cha Hee-jeong to school, to swearing at her son, to corporal punishment, as all 'excessive'. There was a reason why Cha Hee-jung had no choice but to become a 'polar mother'. Baekga suffered school violence.
Cha Hee-jung recalled the time, saying, "It happened when I was in elementary school, and I was surprised to see bruises on my son's body. I woke him up and asked him, 'Why are there bruises?' and he said it was nothing." She continued, “The next day, my younger son asked, ‘Give me the money for the milk.’ I asked, ‘Didn’t you give it to me yesterday?’ and he said, ‘My older brother (Baekga) took it.’ That day, I told my husband that it was strange.” In addition, "My husband scolded me and questioned me, and he said that my son had paid for his milk (to the perpetrators). However, because I couldn't bring the 10,000 won that I was told to bring, I was hit with 6,000 won worth. I thought I was really going crazy," and went to the school to see the perpetrators. It is said that they had him transfer schools.
It is said that Baekga was locked in a warehouse because of the assailants. Cha Hee-jeong said, "During winter vacation, my son was on duty, so I went to prepare firewood, but the kids locked him in the warehouse. He could only open the door when someone came to get firewood. How scary he must have been. When I heard that, I chased him to school and there was chaos. "That's how I became known as a polarizing mother." Baeok-ga said, "I was grateful that my mom sorted things out, but I was scared of retaliation. From then on, I was scared and couldn't say what I wanted to say."
Oh Eun-young comforted the two by pointing out that Cha Hee-jung's 'behavior that crossed the line' was 'intended to protect her son.' However, Oh Eun-young also paid attention to Cha Hee-jung's 'impulsivity'. We also looked at the results of the previously conducted MMPI (Multi-Factor Personality Test). Currently, Cha Hee-jung is in a state of severe self-criticism and guilt, and is said to be in a depressed emotional state. Baekga looked somewhat shocked, which aroused regret. Oh Eun-young said that if one's impulsiveness is high, it is easy to be dominated by negative emotions, and she focused on whether her emotions had ever reached an extreme. In response, Cha Hee-jeong looked at the diary she had written in the past. But it was closer to a will than a diary.
Cha Hee-jung continued with a meaningful confession, saying that there was one thing she wanted to kneel down and pray for her son Baek-ga. He said he made a big mistake in the past but has not yet been able to ask for forgiveness. Cha Hee-jeong said that when Baek-ga was in the 5th grade, she got angry and tore the clothes her son was wearing in the middle of Itaewon. Cha Hee-jung shed tears as she offered a sincere apology to her son for the first time in 30 years, saying, "My son also has pride as a person, but I took out all my anger on him." Instead, Baekga hugged her mother warmly, saying, “I’m sorry that you felt that way for 30 years.”
Kim Ji-won, Ten Asia reporter bella@tenasia.co.kr
