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Seo Jeong-hee, shocking revelation, "I have extreme thoughts"
In Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Gold Counseling Center', which aired on the 12th, Seo Jeong-hee and her mother, Mrs. Jang Bok-sook, appeared as customers of the counseling center.
On this day, Seo Jeong-hee, who suffered domestic violence from Seo Se-won and divorced after 32 years of marriage, was asked how she was after the divorce, and confessed, "I couldn't leave unless someone told me to do it. It was very difficult to do anything alone."
Seo Jeong-hee's mother, referring to the elevator incident, said, "My daughter was dragged into the elevator. I wondered how such a small and weak child could do that." She continued, "At that time, I had no one to complain to and no one would listen to me, so I felt resentful. (Seo Se-won) ) They brainwashed my daughter so much that she ended up living like a complete idiot,” he said angrily.
Dr. Oh Eun-young expressed regret, saying, "Wasn't it a decisive incident that led to the couple's divorce? I saw the elevator incident on the news and was surprised." In response, Seo Jeong-hee's mother said, "I saw it at the scene of the incident. My daughter was dragged up the stairs, so I called security and the police came. As a parent, I must have been devastated. I'm just glad I didn't faint and die."
Seo Jeong-hee said, "Others easily say, 'If it was that hard, you should have come out, you should have broken up,' but it wasn't difficult for me. I could bear it. I thought, 'Why divorce? You can just endure it like me.' When my children urged me to divorce, my ex-husband resented me. "It's not that I'm angry, but I'm resentful of the children. It's something that will go away if I just keep quiet. It was hard to accept the divorce. It was very difficult for me to get divorced as things went on," he confessed.
Seo Jeong-hee said about her married life, "I knew no way other than trusting and following my ex-husband. He even threw away my notebook of acquaintances. I was commanded to be faithful only to my family. So I lived to do everything according to my husband's wishes." "I believed that Seo Se-won's obsession and violence were because he loved me. I suffered from a lot of guilt for not being able to endure to the end, as if I was not a martyr," he said.
Seo Jeong-hee continued, "I never once thought that I was better than my husband. I often asked people to recognize me because of my desire to be recognized, such as how to look good and how to be recognized. I felt like I could fly if I received recognition. It was so good that it made me even more excited. I wanted to do well. Then, when I got scolded, everything fell apart. My ex-husband's approval was more important than the approval of the rest of the world. The most difficult thing after divorce was that there was no one to receive recognition from. When there was no one to receive recognition from, I broke down even more. I felt like I couldn't live. "I had extreme thoughts, thinking it would have been better if I had died there. I lost the will to live," he added.
In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young analyzed, "You're talking about gaslighting as if you're under psychological control. Domestic violence is not only accompanied by physical violence, but also gaslighting. That's why I always come out with love. Because I love you, for you."
Seo Jeong-hee said, "My son said, 'My mother has Stockholm Syndrome. She lived as if she was serving a cult leader.' Recently, while watching a religious cult documentary, I found many people similar to me. I was surprised. I didn't know that was who I was. After coming out, I realized that was wrong. “I put it out there. It was so shocking,” he said, shedding tears.
Taeyuna, Ten Asia Reporter youyou@tenasia.co.kr
