Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which airs today (18th), will be visited by Yang So-young, a 24-year veteran divorce lawyer, and Yang Na-rae, a rising powerhouse in the divorce lawyer world with 9 years of experience.
On this day's broadcast, MC Jeong Hyeong-don asked two lawyers a mischievous question, asking if it would be unreasonable for divorce lawyers to broadcast together. In response, Yang So-young said, “I am the setting sun and Yang Na-rae is the rising sun. She praises her junior by saying, “I am the Jang Do-yeon of the lawyer world,” and Yang Na-rae shows off the affection between her senior and junior by saying, “I had an ambition to become a post-lawyer.”
On this day, lawyers Yang So-young and Yang Na-rae confessed to an unexpected worry, saying, “It is difficult because of the criticism I receive while working.” In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “I think there will be a lot of misunderstandings, such as asking, ‘Do you make money by dividing others?’” Since divorce is not clear on whether it is good or bad, not only does it attract criticism from everyone involved with the client, but it goes beyond criticism to threats. I am concerned that this will continue.
Na-rae Yang then expressed her fear of retaliation, saying, “Clients have no choice but to be hostile towards the opposing lawyer, so when the trial is over, they leave the courtroom as if running away.” In response, Yang So-young said, “I have a lot of anxiety that someone could harm me at any time,” and confessed the painful memory of having a miscarriage due to threats and accusations.
MC Park Na-rae also sympathizes with the professional hardships of a divorce lawyer who is always exposed to threats. She confesses that many people come to meet Park Na-rae after seeing the location of the house exposed while appearing on an entertainment program that reveals her daily life, and that there was even a time when Park Na-rae's mother opened the door for her, thinking she was an acquaintance of Park Na-rae. Some people even ask to borrow money, and they sympathize with the anxiety of the two lawyers, expressing their frustration.
As a result of checking the MMPI (Multiple Factor Personality Inventory) of the two lawyers to understand in detail their psychology of threats, they found something in common. Dr. Eunyoung Oh analyzes that “both people have elevated levels of fear.” Accordingly, Yang So-young does not answer calls from unknown numbers and thinks of all sorts of things when her children do not contact her. “One time, I even had a dream that someone was trying to kill me,” she said, expressing her inner fear. Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “If your fear is high, it can be seen as being in a war-like situation every day,” and advises that you need to know the cause of fear and eliminate the object.
MC Park Na-rae asked if there were any difficulties related to it since most divorce lawyers seem to encounter a lot of infidelity. In response, Yang Na-rae recalls the shocking incident she experienced. I confess that there have been cases where families have been broken up due to infidelity, such as a case where a husband, who was much older than his wife, committed adultery while complaining to his mother-in-law whenever he and his wife argued, and a husband who had an affair with a relative's older sister. It is said that Yang So-young calmly said, “There are surprisingly many incidents like this,” and the members of the counseling center were shocked.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who was listening to the two people's story, expresses concern that people may experience 'vicarious trauma syndrome' if they encounter many traumatic events. Accordingly, Na-rae Yang says that it is difficult to listen to the client's complaints, but on the day she listens to the evidence recording mixed with profanity, she confesses her difficulties in empathizing, saying, "Even if it is someone else's problem, I feel bad as if I was criticized." Next, Na-rae Yang recalled a case in which she cried in the courtroom because of a client she particularly cared about, and said, "The client's age was the same as my mother's, and my daughter's age was the same as mine," predicting the trial of the client who made every effort for his family. Unlike in the case, he was unable to overcome his upset as it led to an unfavorable situation and he cried out in tears at the trial. Accordingly, Dr. Eun-young Oh cautions that when empathizing, one must distinguish between empathy and sympathy, and advises that, while empathizing, one should also take a step back and think about how to help.
MC Jeong Hyeong-don asked, “As Yang So-young is a mother of three children, there must be a psychological burden on divorce for couples with minor children.” Yang So-young said that she wants to prevent divorce as there are cases where parents and children become separated after divorce. He also confesses that he feels a sense of debt, thinking, 'Isn't this taking away parents from children?'
Also, when a child dies due to child abuse in a remarried family after divorce, the seriousness of the worry is heightened by saying, “I feel like it’s all my fault when that happens.” Attorney Yang So-young then runs a child support support group and confesses that she started it to resolve the debt consciousness in her heart.
Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young speculates that people feel a sense of stability when it comes to paying child support because the line between good and evil is clear, but analyzes that it seems that fear has grown as they face stronger criticism from bad fathers and bad mothers. Dr. Oh Eun-young was concerned that both lawyers' anxiety would become chronic due to constant fear, and it is said that she completely analyzed the deep-rooted fears of both lawyers and resolved their unspeakable concerns.
‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center’ airs every Thursday at 8:10 p.m.
Taeyuna, Ten Asia Reporter youyou@tenasia.co.kr