In MBC's 'Oh Eun-young Report - Marriage Hell', which aired on the 19th, Hong Seung-beom and Kwon Young-kyung, who became a hot topic last week with the highest viewership rating of 5% per Bundang, returned to a more serious conflict.
The two, who started out as theater actors 20 years ago, are now the owners of a snack bar. Husband Hong Seung-beom said, “Please raise some money from my allowance right now,” but Kwon Young-gyeong writhed, “How can I raise my pocket money when I don’t even have money to pay for the store?” Hong Seung-beom is currently receiving 100,000 won in pocket money. The husband was upset, saying, "The more money I earn, the more I want to ignore me. Why do I have to beg every time?"
Dr. Eun-Young Oh said, “The concept of money doesn’t change much,” and asked about his wife’s childhood memories of money. Kwon Young-gyeong was moved to tears for a moment. He said, "When I was young, my father was an alcoholic. My mother never did anything for a living. When my father came home after drinking, I waited outside with my mother until she went to bed and came back later. So my father went to a psychiatric ward for alcoholism treatment. I was hospitalized. I grew up watching a mother who raised her children alone, so I just thought that the pain shouldn't be passed on."
Kwon Young-kyung is forced to be negative about alcohol. Hong Seung-bum said, "I found out that my father-in-law was an alcoholic when I went to greet him before marriage. He drank 8 bottles by himself. But there was no one in my wife's family who could match my father-in-law. I needed someone to take care of my father-in-law. Like my father, I served him for 22 years.”
The couple had another problem. Also, Kwon Young-gyeong said, "I think you should go to the urology department. That's the biggest problem," and Hong Seung-beom said, "It's been 10 years. I haven't had a marital relationship since a car accident." Two people who have not been married for 7 years. Hong Seung-beom shouted, "Is it like that with the person who persecutes me? What have I not done for my wife and family? What have I not done for my family? Are you talking about marriage?"
Eventually, the wife left. Kwon Young-gyeong said, "I wrote a diamond from when I was dating to after my first childbirth. At that time, I recorded the marital relationship. I want to know the real reason. I was miserable and fell to the bottom. But now I have no desire to do it. said
Hong Seung-beom recalled a dizzying accident during their relationship, saying, "Once, while we were in a marital relationship, our father-in-law came in. When we were living with a dog, the dogs saw us and came in between the marital relationship."
Hong Seung-beom said, "'Isn't it because you took medicine after an accident?' But since then, when I see my wife, 'What if I can't do it again?' I was scared because I wanted to. Then I ended up using each room and naturally distanced myself." Hong Seung-beom had unrequited love for Kwon Yeong-gyeong for eight years before marriage, but the conflict that he longed for so much.
Hong Seung-beom said, "I don't know exactly, but it's environmentally difficult. The couple's space and the daughter's room are too close. So it didn't work because I didn't do it. I said, 'I'm doing it', but like a miracle, the bones stuck together and I recovered. But after the accident, I've been taking sleeping pills and antidepressants. When I take the medicine, a hazy time comes for about 30 minutes. Every time my wife approaches me, she can't say 'no'. Then, my wife felt sad. Why would I not want to do it?”
Hong Seung-beom was upset, saying, "I have distanced myself from all my friends because of money problems. When I called my daughter's first birthday party, they said, 'Don't call me! Do you only contact me for congratulations and condolences?'"
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Hong Seung-beom visited the urology department, but the test results were beyond normal and said that he was in his 20s and 30s. The doctor diagnosed, "Psychogenic erectile dysfunction. Words are related. Various reasons can be the cause."
Hong Seung-beom said, "My wife said, 'What am I as a woman?' But I didn't have anything to say. I'm so sorry. I want to ask for that only with a slightly more friendly tone than now. Then, there is hope that the relationship between husband and wife will improve." I've never had it before, and my husband always makes excuses for me, so I don't think it's possible."
Dr. Oh Eun-young diagnosed Kwon Young-kyung as feeling afraid, saying, "I think people who don't know well will say that my wife is too much." A wife who spits out aggressive words but avoids her husband. It was difficult for the wife, who felt fear in the growing environment, and the husband, who felt lonely, to understand each other.
Dr. Oh Eun-young pointed out the reason for the miscommunication between the couple, saying, "What a husband needs is the warmth of his wife to soothe his loneliness. On the other hand, a wife is a person who is important to solve." A change in communication is also necessary. He also said that he needed a little skinship. Two people who confirmed each other's hearts, Hong Seung-beom took on a new challenge, saying, "Let's sleep outside today, not at home."
Reporter Ryu Ye-ji and Ten Asia ryuperstar@tenasia.co.kr