A wife who has been suffering from depression for 10 years shed tears as she confessed the pain of losing her son in a car accident.
On the MBC entertainment show 'Oh Eun-young Report - Marriage Hell', which aired on the 26th, a weekend couple who had lived in two houses throughout their married life came to Dr. Oh Eun-young. Even after the wedding, the wife lived in Paju, Gyeonggi Province, and the husband lived in Hwaseong, Gyeonggi Province. It has been four years since they stayed at their respective houses on weekdays and only met on weekends.
Weekends are the only time we can see each other. However, their weekend was no longer enjoyable. The husband is tired of going to meet his wife, and confesses to his wife, whom he met after a week, “I honestly did not want to get married,” which hurt her greatly.
The two had a wedding ceremony, but as a common-law couple who have not yet registered their marriage, they are about to make important decisions such as marriage registration and agreement. A healing report was issued for the couple who visited Dr. Oh Eun-young ahead of an important choice.
On a weekend lunch, while eating at a house in Paju, the husband first expressed his dissatisfaction with his wife. Because of his wife's long-term depression, he can't even go out with him even lightly. The husband revealed the reason for appearing, saying that he wanted to seek counseling because of his wife's lethargy and depression.
My wife, who has been suffering from depression for 10 years, did not deviate from the 3m radius of her bed. Also, the only time his wife goes out is to go to the hospital once every two weeks. Anxiety stemming from depression, sleep disorders, and social phobia were harassing his wife, and even undergoing surgery for thyroid cancer a year ago, she became even more lethargic.
The wife told her story, saying that the 'wound of the heart' hurts more than the body. In fact, the wife had the scars of losing her 8-year-old son, whom she gave birth to with her ex-husband, in a car accident through remarriage. He revealed that he had been dependent on psychiatric medications for 10 years because of the depression he got from it.
A husband and mother-in-law met while wandering after losing a child who was like his wife's heart. She said that her mother-in-law was like an angel who accepted her as she was. Through her mother-in-law, the wife seemed to recover from her pain and gain strength to live again, but she suffered another terrible loss. Even the mother-in-law suddenly left the couple. Dr. Oh Eun-young sincerely understood his wife's empty heart, saying, "I don't think I have yet to find someone to help me live again after suffering two major losses."
The next morning, as usual, the wife lying in bed and the husband wanting to go out. Eventually, after persuading her husband, the two of them found a fishing spot they had enjoyed in the past. At a secluded and quiet fishing spot, the two had a long-awaited conversation. The husband opens the door by asking his wife if she will register their marriage, but the wife does not readily answer. The husband said that he would feel more responsible for their relationship if they registered their marriage, but the wife drew the line that she did not want to live because of the responsibility, saying that the husband did not give assurance of love.
The wife expressed her desire to have a child as an examiner with her husband rather than registering marriage. In the meantime, he hesitated because of the pain of losing a child, but decided to show courage. The husband is confused when his wife says that he does not want to register the marriage, but wants to be an examiner. In the end, the conversation ended without knowing each other's sincerity about the marriage registration and the examiner.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who observed the couple's story, advised the couple living in Hwaseong and Paju without the concept of "our house," to consider the husband's house in Hwaseong as "our house," and to marry. He added that even if he leaves Paju and goes to Hwaseong, he can continue his relationship with the doctor he has been communicating with for 10 years. The husband also added advice to consult with his wife's doctor, and to discuss the pregnancy process with the doctor.
For the husband who was dissatisfied with his wife who only served meals with delivery food, for her husband, home-cooked meals are not just a simple meal, but have the meaning of caring and loving. He also clearly led the two couples to an agreement to eat together.
Reporter Tae Yuna, Ten Asia youyou@tenasia.co.kr