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'I'm Solo' 10th member Jeongsook revealed that she was discriminated against by her grandmother when she was young
In Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Golden Counseling Center', which airs at 8:10 pm on the 5th, single working mother Choi Myung-eun's concerns are revealed.
Choi Myung-eun reveals her worries about her daughter, who is also criticized by school teachers for being distracted, saying, “What should I do with my 13-year-old daughter who is distracted?” Dr. Oh Eun-young, who noticed the mother and daughter's concerns by looking at their morning routines, analyzes that it is not the daughter's problem, but the temperament difference between her and her impatient mother.
In an interview with her inner feelings, the daughter bursts into tears, saying, "I'm sad that my mom doesn't express it, and sometimes I get caught up in my mom's feelings because I don't know what she's feeling." Accordingly, Dr. Eunyoung Oh explains that the daughter may become aware of the mother's inconsistent attitude, and that an insecure attachment may form if there is a lack of faith and trust in the mother-daughter relationship.
Dr. Oh Eun-young said, “Attachment needs to be examined across three generations,” and would like to hear in detail about the difficulties in Choi Myeong-eun’s attachment relationship with her caregivers. Choi Myeong-eun confesses the pain of her childhood that she had never been able to tell anyone about. Choi Myung-eun, who was left in the care of her grandmother during her extremely poor childhood, talks about the wounds she suffered due to her grandmother's preference for boys. The woman revealed that when she was told not to eat at the table, she squatted in the kitchen and filled herself with red pepper paste, seaweed, and anchovies, and that even in the cold winter, she shivered and fell asleep because the fire was not turned on. When he couldn't understand the kitchen's Gyeongsang dialect, 'Jeongji', his grandmother said, "If you don't even know that, what kind of school are you going to?" and said that there was a time when his grandmother didn't send him to school for a month. I also remember catching and selling grasshoppers in the rice fields all night from the age of 13 to earn pocket money. Choi Myeong-eun, who was taken to an orphanage by her grandmother who said, "My daughter is useless," shed tears, revealing the trauma she suffered as a child, saying, "I was happier during the week at the orphanage where it wasn't cold and I didn't have to worry about food." do.
Dr. Oh Eun-young says, “It is true that the grandmother’s discrimination and contempt, who was the only guardian at the time, was abuse.” He then goes on to explain that since one's own existence has been denied, one may begin to question "whether I deserve to be loved," and a confused attachment type may form. Additionally, it is explained that “disorganized attachment may lack basic trust in human relationships because the child has experienced rejection and abuse by caregivers who should have received protection and love.” He expresses concern about the difficulties in human relationships that Choi Myeong may have experienced, saying that although he constantly craves affection, his fear of being abandoned increases his distrust of others and may end the relationship first.
Choi Myeong-eun agrees, saying, “That’s 100% correct.” Even though he suffers from loneliness, he admits that he always feels anxious when he treats people well, thinking, "Why are you being so nice to me? Will you abandon me again?" Choi Myeong-eung, who was unable to take a break from work while filling such loneliness and anxiety with the value of 'money', even said that he thought that money was more important than his life, and that if he could not make money, he would ask, "Is there a reason for me to live? Should I just give it all up?" He admits that he even had bad thoughts like “I want to rest,” which makes me feel sad.
Dr. Eunyoung Oh gives a warning, saying, “We must be aware that having loving parents by our side is more important to children than money.” Choi Myeong-eun confesses that she always feels sorry, especially for her son, saying, "I don't know how to give love to my children." She shed tears, saying that there were times when she fell to her knees and felt guilty about being a bad mother to her 24-year-old eldest son.
Dr. Oh Eun-young also listens to Choi Myeong-eun's mother's inner thoughts in order to examine the attachment of the three generations. Bae Seok-im, Choi Myeong-eun's mother, says, "I am so busy making money that I don't have time to spend with my daughter, so there is no affection between mother and daughter." She opens up about her past, where she worked all day at a brick factory to make a living, but her husband squandered the money on drinking and had to shoulder the burden of supporting the family on his own. She even gave birth to Choi Myeong-myeong alone in a cold warehouse, and later, a 'new soldier' came to visit her, making it impossible for her to take care of her daughter. After hearing this, Dr. Oh Eun-young makes an unexpected analysis: Choi Myeong-eun's mother is not a Shinbyeong, but "there is a possibility that it is Hwabyeong, a Korean type of depression."
Dr. Oh Eun-young advises Choi Myeong-young that the emotional poverty inherited from her mother during her childhood should not be passed on to Choi Myeong-yung's daughter, and is said to have satisfied Choi Myeong-yeon with a special solution to end the inheritance of emotional poverty.
‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center’ airs every Tuesday at 8:10 pm on Channel A.
Jeong-suk, who appeared in the 10th episode of 'I'm Solo' single special, revealed in her self-introduction that she has assets worth 5 billion won and owns 4 apartments and 1 building. On SBS's 'Strong Heart VS', which appeared last February, it was revealed that his assets had increased to around 8 billion won.
Kim Ji-won, Ten Asia reporter bella@tenasia.co.kr
