Yoo Hye-young and Na Han-il, who have gone through two divorces and are living in their third marriage, again showed conflict in a situation where they could not reconcile.
In Channel A's 'Oh Eun-young's Gold Counseling Center', which aired on the 9th, Na Han-il and Yoo Hye-young appeared.
The two visited a counseling center for a successful three-marriage last April and found that the cause of the conflict in their previous marriage was Na Han-il's ADHD and Yoo Hye-young's anticipatory anxiety. However, the couple said they felt difficulties in solving problems in their daily lives, and once again asked Dr. Oh Eun-young for help, and A/S counseling was conducted for the first time in the history of the 'Golden Counseling Center'.
For a more in-depth consultation, we looked at a video of the only couple's third newlywed life. In the video, Yoo Hye-young left the house for a date and came back in a hurry to check the gas valve. Na Han-il shows the characteristic of 'adult ADHD' that he keeps forgetting. He constantly searches for all kinds of belongings, from car keys to cell phones. In the end, the couple went on a date after going back and forth a total of three times.
Yoo Hye-young confesses that it is difficult because she has many things to take care of because of her constant loss of things. It is revealed that there was a time when he forgot not only things but also his birthday, and showed up an hour later than the promised time at a birthday party that his friends were waiting for. In response, Dr. Oh Eun-young points out that Na Han-il's forgetfulness is also a symptom of ADHD, and tries to understand Yoo Hye-young's birthday party by saying that the stimulation of the moment changed Na Han-il's 'priority', not that her birthday party was unimportant.
Na Han-il goes to the grocery store with both hands full for Yoo Hye-young and starts cooking in earnest. However, Yoo Hye-young pours out stormy nagging at the kitchen, which is as messed up as overflowing passion, and shows an uncomfortable expression even in front of the dinner that was completed after twists and turns, asking Na Han-il about future plans for Hap-ga.
Yoo Hye-young asked Na Han-il, "Didn't you say you would do well in the future?" Na Han-il boasted, "I have all the plans in my head." Yoo Hye-young complained, "What would you do if you were determined? You have to practice. I thought I was living without thinking." Na Han-il made an excuse saying, "I'm not living thoughtlessly, I'm just positive."
Na Han-il's 'infinitely positive' attitude made Yoo Hye-young even more angry. The atmosphere froze rapidly as Yoo Hye-young mentioned the conflict in which she had to sell all of her houses due to an economic crisis in the past. Yoo Hye-young exclaimed, “Haven’t you sold all your houses in the past?” Na Han-il retorted, "I know that I spent money on living expenses as if I was skipping dried persimmons by selling my house. I don't think I knew it." Yoo Hye-young's expression hardened, saying, "When I think about that time, the taste of food disappears." Hanil Na said, "Haven't you finished eating? Think positively." Yoo Hye-young was frustrated, saying, "I don't know how long I have to live separately like this."
Oh Eun-young explained that 'money' is 'trust' itself between a couple, and gave bone-to-bone advice, saying that if trust, the basis of marriage, is broken, you cannot have a stable married life.
Dr. Oh Eun-young, who continued in-depth counseling, caught a unique characteristic in the conversation of the only couple. Compared to Yoo Hye-young, who talks about pending issues seriously, Na Han-il only talks loudly. In response, I asked Hye-young Yoo how she felt when she heard Na Han-il's boastful words. Yoo Hye-young was frustrated, calling it "hopeful torture." Oh Eun-young pointed out that Na Han-il's infinite positive mind could be poisonous to Yoo Hye-young, who has high anxiety.
Oh Eun-young said, “Yoo Hye-young seems to be a person who is not good at handling anxiety,” and analyzed that Yoo Hye-young, who has anticipatory anxiety, expresses it with irritation when anxiety is touched. To find the cause, Yoo Hye-young underwent MMPI (multifaceted personality test). Oh Eun-young carefully asked questions about her childhood, saying, "It seems that Yoo Hye-young did not receive enough psychological support from her family when she was young." After thinking for a while, Yoo Hye-young confessed, "When I was young, I had tuberculosis and couldn't go to school, so I had no friends, and my parents were both working so I was always lonely." Hearing this, Na Han-il said, "There are many things I learned for the first time today. If I had known in advance, I would have chosen a better way to communicate, but it hurts my heart."
Reporter Kim Ji-won, Ten Asia bella@tenasia.co.kr